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How I killed the rebellious teenager voice in my head..

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Do you still have a rebellious teenager within?
I used to have a voice in my head that repeated “I don’t care” all the time, specially when I didn’t get what I wanted. I remember having an upset with a co-worker and all day at work I would hear in my head “I don’t care! I don’t care!”.  It makes me laugh to think about it now!
It wasn’t until I read Dr Dain Heer’s book Being You, Changing the World that I was able to release the trapped teenager and let my caring to be greater than pretending not to care. Truth was I cared more than I could admit it and couldn’t let my walls down in fear of getting hurt. On chapter 5 What if Caring Were the Core of You? Dain Heer asks expanding questions like ” What if you care far more than you’ve ever wanted to know? What if you care far more than you’ve ever wanted to acknowledge to anyone, including you? And how much have you decided that it’s that caring that has gotten you into trouble? That your intense caring i what makes you weak? And, is responsible for your hurting and your pain?”

I learned how, even though it was subtle, I was still functioning from defense and separation. When I was cutting off caring for others I was cutting off caring for me too. I didn’t realize how much that was destroying my joy of living. What if I could allow ALL my caring for myself, for others, and for the world to BE regardless of other people’s choices? It was a subtle change that created big waves of joy and connection! 

Further in the chapter Dain writes about demanding of self, kind of a proclamation to self. He suggests making a demand that all our caring shows up now making living here total joy.

If everyone had one hundred percent caring for themselves and others would violence exists?

We learned to be upset with people. It becomes a behavior, something that we do automatic. What if we didn’t get manipulated, intimidated or separated by other people’s choices?

“How many choices are you making that don’t really work for you, because it is what you were taught you were supposed to do? Will you destroy and uncreate all that now please?…”

Thanks Dr Dain Heer for writing in a such a simple clear way! I am grateful to you!

You can purchase his book on Amazon.

I am hosting this video replay class to share this book with you, perhaps it will bring more joy to your life?! If you like to receive it come and play! This Saturday 7pm, 2 hour video class + book!

Tickets available here

 

Why I went from using affirmations to using questions

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I worked intensely with affirmations for several years. Whether I was working with clients, in my Breath-Work classes or in my personal life affirmation was a constant tool for clearing the past and any negative mental mass. I saw and felt the positive effects of affirmations and then came a time when I perceived a limitation. I was looking for more expansion and less mind control. The mind wants to control and I wanted to give the mind less material to defend against or to prove any righteousness.

I started using questions instead of affirmation after I was introduced to the pragmatic tools of Access Consciousness.
I learned questions like “What would it take for… to show up in my life? “What is really possible here” or “Who does this belong to?

For example; Instead of using “I am abundance” try using “What would it take for more money to show up in my life? When a person embodies the energy they don’t need to keep repeating it. Instead of using the affirmation “I am ____” try being the energy of what you are asking for and ask for that to show up with total ease. If you don’t know how to be the energy that you would like to have ask the Universe to show you.

Here is another example; When I wake up in the morning instead of affirming that I will have a great day, I ask a question “what fun adventures will I have today?”

By asking the question, not looking for the answer, and being in wonder gives me the awareness of what can actually be possible to choose for my day to be awesome!

Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness, teaches that “living as the question” and not looking for an answer opens up a whole Universe of infinite possibilities. It keeps you from jumping into conclusions and judgments which is a limitation to creating what you would like to have.

In this article from the Access Consciousness blog you can read how science is discovering that a question will always create more in your life. How does it get even better than that? 🙂